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jonie ౨ৎ's avatar

Really really loved this. Taking ugly out of my lexicon from here out.

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molly's avatar

I love the way you tell your anecdotes - for the short time you're talking about them, I really am removed from the essay for a moment and sitting and watching them happen

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Silvia's avatar

Beautiful essay, thank you so much for sharing. I will probably come back to this again and again.

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hope's avatar

i love this so much!!!

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Amber Season's avatar

Obsessed with this! I can’t wait to think about it for the next few weeks on repeat bc it really struck a chord with me. Your writing is absolutely incredible and the way you handle the subject is so smart and thoughtful. Thank you for sharing it ❤️🙏

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Maureen's avatar

Since I was a little girl, I have never walked into a room of people without feeling so alien in my body. I felt as though I stood out like a sore thumb because I was so ugly. Then, I was ignored. Invisible. If I was so ugly, why weren’t people staring at the hideous beast? This messed with me for so long. My mind spiraled. Currently in an intense game of trying to figure out where I stand in the scale of beauty. A first world problem, incredibly vain, and ridiculous. I don’t want to waste away my youth, but I can’t seem to escape. One day, this ideology will also make me physically ill to the point where I no longer think on it

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samradni's avatar

U**o is such a cringe word ew cant imagine using it

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Luz's avatar

Was crazy to get two thirds through this and realise it's happening in Ireland. That was crazy for me. Great essay.

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A Tinted Perspective's avatar

I’ve been doing the same lately; I find that I always see something pretty in everyone so it has never felt right to label them as “ugly”.

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F.D.'s avatar

This is SO good

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guinevere kane's avatar

adore this

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Lily Monet's avatar

funny and truthful and beautiful and full of life and so so smart!! what a gift this piece is. thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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shriya's avatar

Wow, love this. Thank you

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ruby's avatar

oh this is beautiful and kind of life-changing in many ways. ugly is a word i use too much about everything as kind of a deflective term & it is probably doing so much damage to how i see the world. soooo love the analysis on the shards and ellis as general as a writer, how beauty & numbness are so interlinked

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Stacey's avatar

Love your voice

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Pavani's avatar

just wrote something sort of about this and was recommended ur post....the algorithm is algorithming. beautiful- i think im somewhere on the ok god what if im ugly its not the worst thing a person can be end of the spectrum right now, but love your points about expanding what you think of as beautiful :)

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